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Wedding Recaps: Unforgettable


One sort of ingenius idea that we had (not that I’m bragging or anything…) was to have one big combined dance for our parents dances. Instead of just me and my dad, then Shaun and his mom, we decided to have three couples out on the dance floor at once – me and Shaun, mom and dad, and my new in-laws. After about a minute, our DJ called for us to switch partners, so I got to dance with dad, Shaun got to dance with his mom, etc. We switched up a couple of different times, and it made for some really fun photos. The song that we all danced to was “Unforgettable” by Nat Cole (re-recorded after his death by his daughter Natalie Cole, so the version we used included both of their voices).

Unforgettable, that’s what you are
Unforgettable, though near or far
Like a song of love that clings to me
How the thought of you does things to me
Never before has someone been more

Unforgettable, in every way
And forevermore, that’s how you’ll stay
That’s why darling, it’s incredible
That someone so unforgettable
Thinks that I am unforgettable too


Wedding Recaps: The Toasts


Although our entire wedding day was full of all sorts of emotions, one of the parts that still stands out in my mind were the toasts made by the best man and maid of honor. They were short and sweet, but very meaningful. And our photographer happened to get a few great shots of the toasts as well, so that doesn’t hurt either.

Mike’s speech wasn’t long, but the best part was this: “I’ve known Shaun throughout many different phases in his life. And I’ve honestly never seen him happier than he is when he’s with Kim.” Awwwwww.

My sister, Amie, was more nervous about making her speech, but she did an amazing job. She talked about how we fought a lot growing up (and we did…we shared a room until I went to college, after all…), but that now we’re closer than ever. That now we’re more than sisters, we’re friends. Cue another awwwww.

What’s the best toast you’ve ever heard? Was it long or short? Lots of stories, or just a few heartfelt sentiments?

Wedding Recaps: Kiss! Kiss!


It’s been a little while since I posted my last wedding recap. But now that I have my computer back and I have access to our wedding photos again, they can resume!

You know when you go to a wedding and everyone clinks their glasses a million times to get the bride and groom to kiss? Well, we don’t completely hate the tradition, but we wanted to have some fun with it as well. So every time that the crowd started clinking their glasses, we chose a couple at “random” to kiss as well. Our photographer managed to catch pictures of all of the lucky (or unlucky!) couples we chose, and it’s definitely one of my favorite pages in our wedding album. Here are a few of our favorite photos:

The first “victims.” Except not really…they volunteered!

Shaun’s friends Tyler and Melissa – we’re going to their wedding next weekend 🙂

And my friends Sam and Eric, who got married last weekend! They played the same game during their dinner…and took revenge on us.

My little brother and his girlfriend…they were so embarrassed. Teehee.

Shaun’s aunt and uncle really got into it…

And us…of course 🙂

Baby Dog, Growing Up


In the midst of everything that’s been happening lately, I completely forgot that we passed Tucker’s half birthday! He’s now 6 months old, and I can’t believe that we’ve already had him in our lives for 4 whole months. In some ways that seems so short, but in other ways I already sort of can’t remember what life was like without him.

He’s still not quite fully grown, but he’s about 20 pounds and shouldn’t gain more than 5 or so before he’s done growing. I think he’s getting to be quite a handsome (albiet sassy…) little man. 🙂

Wedding Recaps: Let’s Eat!


Once all of the pictures were done, we were finally ready to relax and let loose! And that started with dinner at our reception hall, Beverly Gardens. It’s your quintessential small-town banquet hall, but the food. is. amazing. We chose to go with a package that included baked and broasted chicken, beef tips with mushrooms, mashed potatoes, stuffing, green beans. They also serve dessert on the table (in addition to our wedding cake which was passed out later!), which included an assortment of tortes and bars and cheesecakes and such, and a staple from back home…kneecaps. So much small-town, rural farming Wisconsin goodness! If we do anything right…it’s comfort food. 🙂 The best part is that it was all “family-style”…like a buffet brought right to your table.

Making our entrance! Gotta love that carpeting…

Shaun welcoming everyone to dinner. He was so nervous for this part, but he did great!

Shaun’s great-uncle saying the prayer before dinner

Our parents were both ready for the party to start too

On Friendship


I’ve been a member of the online community “20-Something Bloggers” for a while now, although I must admit that I don’t participate very often because I’m not really sure what to say to others about my blog. Although I think feedback can be a great thing for any writer, I’m only really looking for new readers who are interested in what I have to say. If that’s not you then that’s fine, but I also don’t need strangers telling me how my blog “could be better.” As if they know.

Anyway, one thing that 20SB posted on their blog recently was a writing prompt, which I’m taking advantage of today. In case you couldn’t tell by the title of this post, the topic is “Friendship.”

I think I fall into a category that a lot of people in my generation find themselves in – I have a lot of “friends,” but only a very few “close” friends. I could probably name the number of people I feel I could tell anything to on both of my hands (i.e., the number is somewhere between 5 and 10). This made it extremely difficult when figuring out who we should invite to the wedding, because Shaun is in the same boat I am. We both know a lot of people and hang out with a lot of people. There were a lot of people who would be offended (and who probably were offended…) if we hadn’t/because we didn’t invite them. But weddings force you to draw that line somewhere, and we chose people who regularly initiate contact with usnot just the other way around. 

Another interesting thing about friends that the wedding brought to the forefront was how friends enter and leave your life at certain important points. They play a crucial role in whatever period you’re going through at the time, but that doesn’t mean you’re meant to be friends forever. In the end, we invited a lot of these “past” friends – people who we saw almost daily at one point in our lives but weren’t quite as close to anymore. I can say that with almost no exception, they didn’t come. And that’s fine, it just really hammered home the point that some people aren’t meant to stay in your life forever while others, for whatever reason, are able to stick around for the long haul. I’m sure it comes down more to circumstance than anything else. Looking back, I have my best high school friends (who I see more now that I’m slowly transitioning back to the Green Bay area, with an eye towards working up here after graduation). I have my best friends from the dorms in college, my best friends from band (who are still some of my closest friends, thankfully, and many of whom are still a big part of my life), my best friends from other student orgs that I was a part of in college. Now I have friends from law school, and it’s difficult to consider the possibility that some day we’ll drift apart. But I guess that’s the cycle we all go through – and drifting will probably be a reality, in some capacity.

The key to making friendships like this work, I think, is continued communication. Which is obviously easier if you all live in the same area, or see each other on a regular basis. If you don’t, you have to make that much more of an effort, which is where the friendship gets hard and sometimes we drift. I’m sure a lot of this is my fault – I’m more introverted than extroverted by nature, so I’m not the type to constantly be going out at night just for the sake of “going out.” I love coffee and dinner dates with friends, but again if you’re not in the same town, that can be hard. Friendships are tricky…but like any relationship so, so worth it when you find the right ones.

And just because that turned out to be kind of a long rant, there’s a picture of me with my best friend last night…when the Packers beat Da Bears!

Wedding Recaps: Family Portraits, Extended Version


Much like our immediate family portraits, extended family portraits were something that we were very happy to have set aside time for on the day of our wedding. It’s not too often that we get all of our large families together in one place – it always seems that at least one person is busy or out of town…I have two uncles who live in the south who I hardly ever get to see, and they both made it up for the wedding! And Shaun’s family is the same way. It’s also fun to look back on old family portraits and see how everyone has changed throughout the years – and now we have these to add to the bunch.

This one isn’t really a family portrait, but I love the photo of Shaun and my grandpa

My mom’s family, and Shaun and me with my mom’s parents

My dad’s family, and Shaun and me with my dad’s parents

Shaun’s mom’s family, and Shaun and me with Shaun’s mom’s parents

Shaun and me with Shaun’s dad’s parents – they didn’t want a full family photo, but I’m glad we still got one with his grandparents!

Wedding Recaps: Married!


I still cannot describe the feeling that I got when our minister, Gloria, announced us as husband and wife. It was the most amazing feeling in the world…I remember feeling like the luckiest woman in the world at that instant, and I hope that the feeling never leaves. Sometimes I still cannot believe that I’m married, especially to a man as amazing, kind and fun as Shaun. But it happened!

Sealed with a kiss. This part of the ceremony wasn’t too bad either. 😉

Poor Shaun was so nervous about being the center of attention that he looks a little grumpy in these ceremony photos. But he said he really was very happy, he was just trying to “surpress his emotions.” (Aka…not cry in front of everyone we know.)

After the ceremony, Gloria pulled Mike (the best man) and Amie (the maid of honor) aside to sign our marriage license as witnesses. I didn’t realize that these pictures were happening while we were in the receiving line, but I’m glad our photographer got to be there to capture the moment that our marriage became legally official. (I know, shocking that that part would seem important to a law student.)

So there you have it…officially hitched! And time to party! (Almost.)

All photos by Tricia DeWar Photography.

Wedding Recaps: The Ceremony


The ceremony itself was relatively short and sweet, but very meaningful. Since the wedding, we’ve received many compliments on our ceremony and officiant, which is really special to me because…well…that’s what the whole day is really about, right? We were also lucky enough to have a few of Shaun’s family members film our ceremony, so in a few months we should receive the DVD and be able to relive the moment again. I can’t wait! But in the mean time, here’s how the ceremony went down:

My dad handed me off to Shaun, saying “Here you go!” (a la Howard and Bernadette’s dad on Big Bang Theory)

We declared our intention to get married, then each of our godmothers read a passage to us:

This Marriage

May these vows and this marriage be blessed.
May it be sweet milk, like wine and halvah.
May this marriage offer fruit and shade
like the date palm.

May this marriage be full of laughter,
our every day a day in paradise.
May this marriage be a sign of compassion,
a seal of happiness here and hereafter.

May this marriage have a fair face and a good name,
an omen as welcomes the moon in a clear blue sky.

I am out of words that can describe
how spirit mingles in this marriage.

Ephesians 5: 21-33

Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is a profound one, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church; however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

We said our vows:

“I take you to be my partner from this day forward, to join with you and share all that is to come.
And I promise to honor, respect, cherish, and be faithful to you throughout our journey.
Because you are my friend. My loyal and respectful partner.
My one true love.
This is my solemn vow.”

We exchanged rings…


…and locked our love letters into the wine box. All of that in less than 30 minutes!

All photos by Tricia DeWar Photography.

Wedding Recaps: The Aisle


I’d have to say that hands down, one of the most emotional parts of the day was just before the ceremony. Shaun and I had just gotten back from taken pictures at the apple orchard, and were hiding inside the air conditioned chapel with our family and bridal party. The entire month of July was the hottest month on record, and the week that we got married was no exception – it was over 100 degrees every day the week of our wedding! That is, except for the day of. The heat broke, and it was around 85 all day – considerably cooler, but still hot. So we drank water, started to get nervous, and spent our last few “single” moments surrounded by the people we love most. Just before it was time for them to go, my mom gave me a hug and told me how much she loved me and how proud of me she was…needless to say, there were substantial waterworks from both of us. It was a beautiful moment, and one that I’ll never forget.

And then before we knew it, it was time to walk down the aisle.

Shaun’s mom and my mom, carrying our love letters for the Wine Box Ceremony

Shaun and his dad (can you tell he’s nervous?)

Eli and Christy, friends from college

Shaun’s brother Michael, my cousin Sara

My brother Matt, Shaun’s sister Rebecca

Shaun’s best man (and best friend) Mike, my maid of honor (and sister) Amie

Shaun and the minister, just before…

Let’s get married!

All photos courtesy of Tricia DeWar Photography.