Money, religion, politics. The three topics I’ve been told you shouldn’t discuss over dinner. I’m quickly learning just how difficult it can be to talk about them at all.
In case you haven’t heard, Wisconsin is in a bit of a political frenzy right now (read about it here). As a left-leaning girl living in Madison, the capital of the state and the heart of the debate, being engaged to a right-leaning farm boy from the Northeast is taking its toll on our relationship the last few days. Since the budget bill is all that anyone seems to be talking about (with good reason), we too have tried discussing the issues at hand. It almost always ends in a fight. Usually with tears (from me, not him). It’s made for an interesting week, to say the least.
It doesn’t help that we’re about two and a half hours apart, and only see each other about once a week. But the added tension of opposing political views over such a nationally spotlighted issue right now has certainly made us step back and think about what’s really important in our relationship. And as strongly as I feel about this bill, what’s important to our relationship is not collective bargaining rights or public employee benefits. Sometimes, Shaun and I are going to have to agree to disagree. We love each other, this too shall pass, and we’ll work everything out.
There was a time when fundamentally different political views might have been a deal breaker for me. I guess that’s still true to an extent, but not for something as relatively superficial as Democrat versus Republican. I wouldn’t, for instance, marry a neo-Nazi. I know that at the end of the day Shaun and I are both good people, albeit ones with slightly different views about how the state should be run. I can live with that, I guess.